Let me share a true story with you
about a woman who was legally married to her husband, but one day she called
her daughter and gave her this advice, “I don’t want you to bother about
marriage. Just get a handsome young man and have a child by him. Once you have
got a child, that’s ok. Do not marry him. Develop your career and continue your
life as a career woman.”
AH! What an ungodly advice to a
precious life that is committed into your hands by God? Many questions ran
through my mind at such a story:
i.
What happened to that woman’s
marriage that made her so disillusioned about married life?
ii.
Was she still living with the father
of her child as at the time she was advising this little girl, who was a
student at that time?
iii.
Did this woman realize that she was
outrightly encouraging her daughter to go and commit fornication, which is a
sin before God? “Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the
body, but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.” (1
Cor.6:18)
When mothers
are wary of their marital problems and they think that the best thing to do
is to
“shield” their daughters from such future crises by advising them to become
‘single
mothers’
(without husbands), what sort of society are we creating for ourselves?
Unfortunately,
this is a very selfish idea. We always think about our own pleasures,
things that
will favor us. A lady wants to enjoy motherhood but she wants to run away
from the
responsibilities of building a healthy home by settling down in marriage with
the
father of
the child. Can we for once think about “the Child”? His or Her future? No
father
figure to
grow up with? When he or she begins to go to school, other children will be
sharing
stories about what their daddies are doing – how daddy sometimes is helping out
with the
schoolwork; how he is assisting mummy at home; how they went out to events
with daddy
and mummy, visiting Amazement parks, Zoological garden, and Shopping
malls to buy
some ‘goodies.’ Have you thought of what effects that could have on your
child, my
dear so-called ‘Single mother? What is the pride in being addressed as “Baby
Mama?”
One day, you will be faced with tough questions. Your child will come home and ask you, “Mummy, where is my
daddy? Why is he not living with us in this house?” How do you intend to
respond? What lies are you planning to tell that precious gift of God?
Let us imagine what future lies
ahead of such a child. He or she will get to know the truth one day and will
become bitter. The child may become rebellious and may hate you for life. The
‘father’ you denied him/her of having would have gone ahead with his own life
by marrying another woman, who may never agree that your own child should be accepted
into their home.
With such embittered species
scattered all over our land, we don’t need a prophet to tell us that our
society is sitting on a keg of gun powder. It is just a matter of time, the
resultant effect will be cataclysmic! What an explosion! We have enough crises
in the world, can you please spare us some sorrows by not bringing to birth
such children that will turn against you and the society in the future? We are
tired of the countless number of dysfunctional families that are all over the
place, please help us build healthy homes so that we can enjoy a healthy
Nation. Marry legally according to the plan of God who instituted marriage. He says
in Genesis 2:18 22, 24, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I
will make a companion who will help him... Then the Lord God made a woman from
the rib and brought her to Adam...This explains why a man leaves his father and
mother and is joined to his wife (woman), and the two are united into one.”
Refuse to be lured into “Baby Mama”
club. It is an insult to your womanhood! When you feel the need for a
man-figure in your life, what will you do? Do you want to be sleeping around
with all kinds of men? What an insult to your creator? The child that you have
denied the joy of complete parenthood, what will she or he become in the future?
Just like you? Frustrated and embittered? Jesus came to give us life, and life
in abundance. (Jn. 10:10) Give Him a chance in your life. Confess your sins and
ask Him for forgiveness, then turn away from your wicked ways and accept Him as
your personal Lord and Saviour. 2 Corinthians 5:17 declares, “If any man is in Christ, he is a new
creation; old things have passed away, behold! All things become new.”
