WOMAN. STAY ON! YOU ARE AN ENCOURAGEMENT TO SOMEONE, SOMEWHERE!

A woman woke up one day with a heavy burden on her mind. I will like to call her Mrs. A. Troubled by the crises she was facing in her matrimony, Mrs. A. decided that the best way to get out of this marriage palaver is to pack her load and call it quits. She was ready to walk out of that marriage without informing her husband about her decision. Will he stop her from leaving, if informed? Maybe, maybe not, but Mrs. A was resolute.

Unknown to Mrs. A, a neighbor has been watching her in the neighborhood, and wished she could be like this mama, who unknown to her was about running away from her matrimonial home. One day, this other lady that I will like to address as Mrs. B walked to Mrs. A and narrated to her how unhappy she has been in her marriage and the fact that she was planning to leave her husband. On second thought she told herself, ‘let me see this other woman who appears to be enjoying her own married life. May be she can help me out of this crisis.’ So she approached Mrs. A.

On getting to the house of Mrs. A, she greeted her and pleaded with her to grant her some time because she had something to share with her. Out of courtesy, Mrs. A asked Mrs. B to sit down. The latter began to share her tales of woes. As Mrs. A was listening to the stories of her neighbor, she was convicted by the Holy Spirit about her decision to quit her marriage. She listened attentively to Mrs. B and she began to counsel her. To the glory of God, she was able to help Mrs. B to see a better perspective on her marriage, and she went back home rejoicing. She decided not to quit her marriage as she previously planned. After Mrs. B left the house, our dear madam went on her knees and asked God for forgiveness. She did not realize that somebody in the neighborhood has been watching and admiring her and her husband as a happy couple. Your guess is as good as mine. Mrs. A stayed on. That’s the power of stickability!

If fifty married women are brought together in a group, I guess about seventy-five (75%) of them, if not higher than that, are silently wishing that they could quit their marriages. Why? There are many unanswered questions in their minds! I leave you to fill up the gaps.

Beloved, stay on! Remember, the word of God states that, “For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenlies. Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand. “(Ephesians 6: 12-13). The first marriage in the Garden of Eden suffered a great blow but for God’s divine intervention (Genesis 3). The adversary, Satan, is not happy to see a united home that is built on Jesus Christ, our solid Rock. He constantly fights against marriage institution. Let us be spiritually alert, and do not give Satan a foothold. But you may want to ask the question, “What if the man is battering the wife? There are different ways of handling such. I am not suggesting that you stay and lose your life, but be wise! Your husband is not a devil after all. Pray for each other.

Stay on beloved! Somebody somewhere is being encouraged, though unknown to you. May God grant you and your husband the grace to honor God in your marriage.  

“BABY MAMA!” WHAT ABOUT YOUR CHILD’S FUTURE?”

Let me share a true story with you about a woman who was legally married to her husband, but one day she called her daughter and gave her this advice, “I don’t want you to bother about marriage. Just get a handsome young man and have a child by him. Once you have got a child, that’s ok. Do not marry him. Develop your career and continue your life as a career woman.” 

AH! What an ungodly advice to a precious life that is committed into your hands by God? Many questions ran through my mind at such a story:

i.                    What happened to that woman’s marriage that made her so disillusioned about married life?

ii.                  Was she still living with the father of her child as at the time she was advising this little girl, who was a student at that time?

iii.                Did this woman realize that she was outrightly encouraging her daughter to go and commit fornication, which is a sin before God? “Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body, but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.” (1 Cor.6:18)

When mothers are wary of their marital problems and they think that the best thing to do

is to “shield” their daughters from such future crises by advising them to become ‘single

mothers’ (without husbands), what sort of society are we creating for ourselves?

Unfortunately, this is a very selfish idea. We always think about our own pleasures,

things that will favor us. A lady wants to enjoy motherhood but she wants to run away

from the responsibilities of building a healthy home by settling down in marriage with the

father of the child. Can we for once think about “the Child”? His or Her future? No father

figure to grow up with? When he or she begins to go to school, other children will be

sharing stories about what their daddies are doing – how daddy sometimes is helping out

with the schoolwork; how he is assisting mummy at home; how they went out to events

with daddy and mummy, visiting Amazement parks, Zoological garden, and Shopping

malls to buy some ‘goodies.’ Have you thought of what effects that could have on your

child, my dear so-called ‘Single mother? What is the pride in being addressed as “Baby

Mama?”

One day, you will be faced with tough questions. Your child will come home and ask you, “Mummy, where is my daddy? Why is he not living with us in this house?” How do you intend to respond? What lies are you planning to tell that precious gift of God?

Let us imagine what future lies ahead of such a child. He or she will get to know the truth one day and will become bitter. The child may become rebellious and may hate you for life. The ‘father’ you denied him/her of having would have gone ahead with his own life by marrying another woman, who may never agree that your own child should be accepted into their home.

With such embittered species scattered all over our land, we don’t need a prophet to tell us that our society is sitting on a keg of gun powder. It is just a matter of time, the resultant effect will be cataclysmic! What an explosion! We have enough crises in the world, can you please spare us some sorrows by not bringing to birth such children that will turn against you and the society in the future? We are tired of the countless number of dysfunctional families that are all over the place, please help us build healthy homes so that we can enjoy a healthy Nation. Marry legally according to the plan of God who instituted marriage. He says in Genesis 2:18  22, 24, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a companion who will help him... Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib and brought her to Adam...This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife (woman), and the two are united into one.”

Refuse to be lured into “Baby Mama” club. It is an insult to your womanhood! When you feel the need for a man-figure in your life, what will you do? Do you want to be sleeping around with all kinds of men? What an insult to your creator? The child that you have denied the joy of complete parenthood, what will she or he become in the future? Just like you? Frustrated and embittered? Jesus came to give us life, and life in abundance. (Jn. 10:10) Give Him a chance in your life. Confess your sins and ask Him for forgiveness, then turn away from your wicked ways and accept Him as your personal Lord and Saviour. 2 Corinthians 5:17 declares, “If any man is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away, behold! All things become new.”

THE "WRIGGLE": :Window to your Freedom (PART 2)

The Biblical basis

In Proverbs chapter sixteen verse seven, the word of the Lord states, “When a man’s ways please the Lord, He makes even his enemies be at peace with him.” (Amplified Bible). Conversely, if a man’s way does not please the Lord, I dare to say that what will happen to him will be the opposite, that is to say, his enemies will not be at peace with him. I think this could be the reason behind curses and the battle in a Christian’s life most of the times, though not always. Sometimes Satan fights the Christian for no just cause just as it is in Job’s case. Read Job 2: 1-8.

In all honesty how many Christians are living sinless lives? How many are blameless, and how many are holy? The bible says, “Without holiness, no man can see the Lord.” Sometimes one may even be ignorant of the fact that he or she has sinned. He that does not offend in words the bible describes him as a perfect man. (James 3:2). But the Holy Spirit whispers into our hearts saying my son, or my daughter, do you know that you have just missed the mark? Some people gave that a coinage and described it as “the sins of the saints!” As Christians many of us know that there are some sins that are obvious such as are mentioned in the Bible. For example, the book of Revelations chapter one, verse eight reads:

But as for the cowards and the ignoble and the contemptible and the cravenly lacking in courage and the cowardly submissive, and as for the unbelieving and faithless, and as for the depraved and defiled with abominations, and as for murderers and the lewd and adulterous and the practicers of magic arts and the idolaters (those who give supreme devotion to anyone or anything other than God) and all liars those who knowingly convey untruth by word or deed) – [all of these shall have] their part in the lake that blazes with fire and brimstone. This is the second death. (Amplified Bible).

But what will one say about a Christian who is being ruled by anger almost all the time? Even though he or she may not blow up the top of the lid but in that quietness, gently boiling with anger, sin is already recorded against such a fellow except he or she repents and asks God for forgiveness. This brings to my mind the case of a Christian sister who was bitter but she did not know until one remarkable day. She attended a Sunday service at a church and having been convicted by the Spirit of the Lord to amend her ways, she responded to an altar call for re-dedication of her life to Jesus Christ. As she was sitting down in the waiting room expecting to meet with one of the church counsellors, the Holy Spirit confronted her with this reality. It was as if someone spoke to her inwardly, “You are bitter against God.” The sister could not believe what she heard. She was so disturbed and after meditating on that sentence for a while she accepted that it was true and she broke down weeping. One of the counsellors on standby saw her sobbing but he did not interrupt her. That was a good quality of a counsellor. He allowed the sister to settle her case with her creator unhindered. The lady in question quietly confessed her sin of bitterness against God and asked God to forgive her.

Beloved, I was that lady! I brightened up after the prayer and I beckoned to the counsellor who had actually been watching the ‘drama,’ and I said to him, “Sir, I am alright. I want to go home.” The counsellor asked, “Are you sure you are o.k. or will you like to still meet with a counsellor? I put up a beautiful smile and assured him that “all is well.” The counsellor prayed with me and I left the Counselling hall liberated from the spirit of bitterness and I went home rejoicing. Reading through this story, many questions may likely be racing through the mind of the reader. How can someone be bitter against God? Is that really possible? I understand your confusion. I was also taken by surprise. How can I be bitter against my creator? But remember that the Holy Spirit searches through the heart of man and He sees what is there even when it is latent, I mean when it appears nothing is at stake.

Considering our story let us imagine if Satan had struck the sister with infirmity, chains of calamities et cetera, many would have judged wrongly.  Some people who knew her closely might even vouch for her that the sister is living right with God, how could such a thing happen to her? But the truth was that she was actually ‘swimming’ in an ocean of bitterness for years against her creator due to the challenges of life she was confronted with. The accuser, Satan, actually had a foothold to hold on to, confidently reporting to God saying something like this, “Have you seen your so-called daughter living in the sin of bitterness? I have every right to attack her. What do you have to say, Master?” This is just my imagination! Thank God for the blood, the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ. Some people may not be that fortunate to escape being struck by the devil even though they are born-again Christians. Deep-seated issues must be cleared with God’s mercy in order to scale through the accusation of the adversary.

THE "WRIGGLE" - Window to your Freedom (PART 1)

I have a message to put across. A message that may likely generate some questions, arguments, and counter-arguments among genuine Christians especially my friends in the theological field.

When I felt that the Spirit of the Lord was leading me to write on this “sensitive” topic in the year, 2012, I must confess that I trembled. The reason is simple. I am aware that many Christians still argue about a number of issues that are being exposed here, and I do not want to lead any child of God astray consciously or unconsciously. I dare say I am treading this terrain softly because many Christians have their biases about this discussion. Whatever I have written down are things that I believe God has given me the grace to share with the followers of Jesus Christ, globally.

 One day I was meditating on the word of God, and suddenly I found myself meditating on the word, “Warfare.” I began to ask myself the question, What is warfare? In my reflections, I see warfare as a war to be fought. That means there is a battle going on somewhere. With whom am I to fight this war? The powers of darkness! What does war connote? Violence of course! So since war has to do with violence that means it is not a matter of joke! Not at all! The meditation grew deeper. Can one fight any war silently?  I doubt it. There would always be noise I concluded. Now the next issue is since war calls for violence, can anyone pray spiritual warfare prayer as ‘silent prayer’? Is that how to fight a war?

            I do not know what others think, but the reflection jolted me to reality, and made the fact crystal clear to me that it is needful that one puts in all of one’s energy, by the power of the Holy Spirit to fight this type of war that has attracted the principalities and powers of hell to ‘crush’ someone spiritually, and physically if they can have their ways. Many supposed glorious destinies had been frustrated, ‘caged’ or completely ruined. Others started their journey in life with lofty promises of greatness in sight! Some mind-blowing prophecies had been declared on the lives of some others, but then no results at sight. Then the question pops up in one’s mind, “Where is the outcome of those promises and the fulfilment of those wonderful prophecies? Hun-uh, confusion sets in. Who is to blame? Satan, the individual, the society, the government of the land or who is responsible for this kind of supposed unfulfilled glorious future?

 At a period in my life, I began to ruminate over the unfulfilled promises and prophecies in my own life. As a regenerated soul, already washed by the blood of Jesus Christ, and walking in His ways, I was deeply disturbed and worried about my state. Spiritually, I was struggling to enjoy sweet fellowship with the Holy Spirit, as a result of loads of burdens, and doubts on my mind which I was not bold enough to share with close associates, how much more my spiritual overseers. What would they think about me? I will be presenting myself to them as a backsliding Christian if they get to know about my pains. But I was ‘dying.’ Stagnancy at all fronts! No progress at the place of work! By the time it appears as if progress was being made in the area of Christian Ministry, the devil would put up a wall again, and all hope would be lost.

I know that some of us Christians see “Dreams” as a lesser form of revelation. I was in your shoes before the Lord helped me to understand better by studying the scriptures. This write up is not about dreams, so I do not intend to teach on that, but suffice it to say that the dream that I had about a spiritual attack launched at my studies compelled me to begin some spiritual exercise such as fasting and praying. At the tail end of my studies, I almost experienced a set-back but the Lord intervened, then I appreciated God for the victory Jesus had won for me on the cross of Calvary.

 A Christian sister at my place of work gave me a copy of their church magazine, and after reading through some articles and testimonies that were printed there, I prayed and I saw the need to attend some of the prayer and deliverance programmes of the church. After some months, the Holy Spirit began to unfold some deep secrets to me about my life and the ministry that God has committed into my hands. On one occasion I received a message by the Spirit of the Lord, saying to me, “You will write a book for me,” and the title that was given to me that day is The "Wriggle."

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CHILD OF GOD, YOUR MARRIAGE MUST WORK!

On Sunday, the 5^th day of March 2019 I woke up in the early hours of the day with this thought on my mind, “There’s a demand placed upon you Child of God, your marriage must work! It looks like this is a personal message but then the Spirit of the Lord led me to pick up my writing materials and I began to write. I pray you will be blessed as you read this piece in Jesus’ name

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What is Christian Marriage?

This is my definition. A Christian marriage is one wherein a man who has embraced the salvation which only Jesus Christ can give is joined in holy matrimony to a woman who has equally embraced the same salvation through confession of her sins to Jesus Christ and have invited Him into her life as her Saviour. John 3: 16 states, “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” Jesus told Nicodemus in verse 7 of the same chapter, “Marvel not that I said unto thee, Ye must be born again.”

In Genesis 2: 24, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall unto his wife, and they shall be one flesh.” Can anyone separate one indivisible whole without causing harm? The moment you try that destruction sets in. Though the two of them are Christians, human nature can not be ignored. There are moments of revelations! Seeing the other aspect of your partner which you never expected! Sometimes you wake up in the quietness of the night and you begin to look at this partner of yours with several ‘unhealthy’ questions racing through your mind, especially when you have been hurt. Let us not mention them here! Please do not dwell on such, rather borrow the “eyes of Jesus” and see your spouse through Jesus’ eyes. Think of only what Jesus would be seeing in that handiwork of His. Someone is saying, “You don’t know this partner of mine that is why you are giving glowing tributes!” But Jesus sees all and He knows all!

Why must this Marriage Work?

This marriage relationship must work because it is built on Jesus Christ, the Rock of Ages! God the Father says in Malachi 2:15-16, “Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth. For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away…) “I hate divorce.” I am sure you will not like to embrace what your Father in heaven hates. You desire to please your Master, Jesus Christ. Isn’t it? But wait a minute! Are you telling me to stay on in that abusive marriage? Then I ask you, friend, Was this how it all began? You started at a place of love and that was why you came together as husband and wife in the first place, then what happened along the journey friend?

            This marriage must work because you are brought together by God to showcase His glory to your generation and generations yet unborn who will read or hear about your exemplary Christian home. You are called to be a role model!

Let us examine some likely causes of marital conflicts at this point of our deliberation. These are just my thoughts, there are many more definitely.

1.     1.  Lack of money to meet up with family needs.

2.      2. Careless spending of money by either of the marriage partners.

3.      3. Interruption by the in-laws (mother-in-law; father-in-law; sister or brother-in-law etc)

4.      4. Siblings becoming overbearing on either the husband or the wife through their monetary or material demands

5.      5. Communication gap between married couples.

6.      6. Shabby appearance/dressing on the part of either of the couple.

7.      7. Excessive weight problem especially on the wife’s part.

8.      8. Lack of family philosophy of training of the children. Follow the Bible principle in Prov. 22:6

9.      9. Lack of mutual respect. Ephesians 5:21Romans 12:10

110.  Rebellious behaviour from either husband or wife.

111.  Lack of respect for parents.

112.  Lustful behaviour in the area of property accumulation.

113.  Sexual dissatisfaction /sexual abuse.

114.  Infidelity or unfaithfulness in marriage.

115.  Constant nagging by the wife or anger from either of the couple.

116.  Childlessness for a period or infertility.

117.  Lack of attention by either husband or wife.

118.  Overconcentration of love on the children at the expense of one’s spouse.

119.  Getting hooked on one’s career/ ministry to the total neglect of the other partner.

220.  Lack of romance in the marriage/ bad habit of pornography.

221.  Lack of trust and loyalty.

222.  Bitterness and Unforgiveness.

223.  Not meeting up with each other’s expectations.

224.  Pride and arrogance.

225.  Constant dependence on parents-in-law for family needs and conflict resolution.

226.  Lack of understanding and hypocrisy.

227.  Not listening attentively to your spouse during discussions.

228.  Not cross-checking with your spouse information received from outsiders about him or her.

229.  Battering i. e Wife beating.

330.  Favoritism in the family.

This marriage is not working again! Let us call it quits! Be patient my brother! Be calm my dear sister! Some ‘stranger’ is at that dark corner beating a drum of sorrow, shame, and destruction for you and your spouse. Can’t you discern it?  When father Adam and Eve were in harmony with their creator in the garden of Eden, read again what happened to them in the book of Genesis. In the cool of the day, God in heaven will come down and had fellowship with the first human couple on earth, but by the time the enemy of our soul crept in as a serpent in Genesis chapter 3. ‘Man’ was misled and that led to a breakdown in their fellowship with God. Let us read it together again in Genesis 3: 23-24, “Therefore the LORD God sent him forth from the garden of Eden, to till the ground from whence he was taken. So he drove out the man…”

            Do you realize that God missed that fellowship? He had to make a way to restore that communion and that informed the sending of His only begotten Son to earth. Jesus Christ came and died on the cross for you and for me. He shed His blood so as to reconcile us back to the Father.

            That marriage must work! It has to work, dear child of God because you are a terror to the kingdom of Satan. If you now permit the devil to destroy your home, what happens? You don’t know my partner. The more I pray the more the relationship worsens! I know it happens sometimes. Please play your own part and leave the rest to God to iron it out.  May His Spirit not depart from us. Amen.

What must you do for this marriage to work?

INTIMACY WITH GOD

In marriage three personalities are involved:

I.                   God

II.                Husband

III.             Wife                             

                                   

Every Christian that wants to live a meaningful and victorious life must be very close to God. It is important to spend quality time with God in the place of prayer, Bible study, and meditate on God’s word. As couples, you must be determined to build a Christ-Centred home. Once the husband’s communication with God is unhindered as well as that of the wife towards God, they will naturally flow towards each other. But if one party has a communication breakdown between him/her and God, it will affect his/her communication with the spouse.

Once the communication lines are open between God and the couple, things will work out better. Therefore, direct the attention of the entire family to the supremacy of Christ in your lives and personal endeavours.

The word of God says, “But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you.” (Matthew 6:33)

Friend, deepen your relationship with the Holy Spirit. He will teach you how to listen to divine instructions and will grant you a heart of obedience so that you can please your creator. What of if I find myself in an abusive marriage? What of if the man or the woman wants to kill me? You are not a robot, you are a human being! Turn it over to God, and do whatever he instructs you to do at any particular time for your safety. In closing, let God be the leader in your home.

(For counselling, please contact Joyful Callers Counselling Ministry @ 0813-814-3021 or send an email to “joyfulcallers@gmail.com”)