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Street children are vulnerable, and before long the boy was introduced to hard drugs and other vices. When the young boy narrated his ordeal he appealed to my friend to take him off the streets that his life ambition actually was to go to school and become an educated fellow. My friend agreed to offer help and they both agreed to meet with the uncle of the boy. After some meaningful discussion with the uncle, the boy was handed over to this “good Samaritan.” On getting home, the family accepted this boy as a member of their family, arranged with a school proprietress and the boy was admitted to the appropriate class. Did I hear you say, Oh, what a lucky boy? I’m sorry to inform you that he blew it! Not too long after his admission to the school, he ran away from the family, and it was found out later that he went back to re-unite with his fellow street boys. Very painful, isn’t it? Yes, our young boy could no longer relate with true love, since his mother walked out of his life and left him at the mercies of a father who cared less about his welfare. Folks, divorce is a never-ending crisis. As much as possible, always seek lasting solutions to marital crisis, and never encourage divorce. Too many lives are at risk. God bless your reading and reflections.

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A friend of mine went to the city market on a sunny day to purchase some stuff. She bought so  many items, and it became necessary for her to seek help from anyone who cares enough to help her get the stuff into her car. A teenage boy approached her, “Mummy, can I help you with your load ma?” My friend gladly obliged. What a sweet relief! She engaged the young boy in a dialogue. “You should be in school at this hour of the day young boy, why are you hanging around at the market square?” The little boy narrated her ordeal to my friend. Quite pathetic indeed! The mother had left the father and moved into another town. The father got another woman into the house who began to maltreat this boy. He was being treated like a slave and the husband could not even help the situation. In fact he never believed the boy’s stories, rather he believed his new wife’s stories about how rude the boy was to her. The boy said to himself, “my mother is no longer with my father, so what am I doing here? If I continue to stay in this house, I will die of hunger, and again the beating from my father’s new wife is becoming unbearable. I must run away from this suffering.” The boy ran to the streets and sad enough, he found himself a home under the overhead bridge where other street boys reside. What next?

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Now reflect on the following questions: 1. What is God’s position on Divorce? 2. Do I want to obey God or “my pains”? 3. What does God’s word say about perseverance? 4a. Where do I want to be on my daughter’s wedding day? At the front row or the back row or be totally absent? 4b. Where do I want to be on my son’s wedding day. Who will be the groom’s ‘proud’ mother on that day? 5.Do I want another woman to take over my responsibilities over my husband and children while I am still alive? 6a. What did I vow unto God on my wedding day? 6b.Am I backing out? What will I tell God? 7. Was my husband like this when we wedded newly? 8. What went wrong and how did I contribute to this crisis? 9a. Is money dividing us so soon? 9b. Should ‘another woman’ be a reason for dissolution of my vows unto God to remain till ‘death do us part.’ 10. How can I cooperate with God to mend this broken home? Are you troubled that your marriage relationship is heading towards divorce? Why not pray a prayer of confession, asking the Lord to forgive you and your spouse, and stop blaming your partner. Repent in all sincerity, and be determined to obey God’s word, God hates divorce. My suggestion is that someone should care enough to respond to the questions stated above. You may encounter a healing experience if you honestly desire to laugh again, and rejoice in the Lord Jesus Christ. Peace!

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Many people are connected to any married couple who have chosen divorce as an option- children, mother, father, uncles, aunties, nephews, nieces, brothers and sisters-in-law etc. When decisions are about to be reached about calling it quits, it will be ideal to think beyond you. Care for the hurts your children and other significant others are about to be exposed to. Some ‘wounds’ may never get healed Divorce is a traumatic experience! Come to think of it. This man that has suddenly become a stranger to his wife was once a lovely man, one in a million, very caring and accommodating. Then what went wrong? What was responsible for the breakdown in communication? Is it not possible to resolve their differences? Couples should embrace communication at all levels. It is a significant key to building a successful marriage relationship. FRIEND, find out what divorcees have to say: CAN YOU “HEAR” THEIR PAINS? “Divorce is one of the traumatic things a man or a woman can go through.” - Bro. M.A. “It is not a thing of pride for you to come out and say you are divorced.” – Bro. A’ “If I were this matured as a Christian twenty years ago, I wouldn’t have sued for a divorce…” – Sis. ‘B “Divorce is not a good thing whether the woman was a witch or not. Trust me, it is not a good thing to go through a divorce.” – Bro ‘S’

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One day I went to visit a friend in her office, and while waiting for her, I began to chat with her secretary. It was during a lunch-break so I engaged her in a discussion on marriage. I tried to ask few questions about her plans for the future, specifically her dreams about the man she would love to marry. Initially she was very relaxed during the interaction, but as the discussion progressed, I noticed that her countenance changed and she was no longer interested in our discussion. I then asked her what happened that she suddenly became withdrawn. She told pointedly, “In all honesty I have no plans for marriage.” She said further, “I am alright with my single state, what do I need a husband for. All men are hypocrites after all. I would rather face my future without any intimate relationship with any man, called husband. I am o.k” At this point I sensed that I had met a lady who probably had been hurt or had faced disappointments from some men in the past, so instead of changing the subject of our discussion I asked about her family background. How are your parents? I asked. They are fine, she replied. Are your parents living together? I asked further. She wanted to weep but she controlled her tears. After noticing this change of emotion, I inquired further what happened to her parents, and she began to share with me the pains of separation between her dad and mum, and the negative impact it was having on her and her siblings. You can not imagine what happened to me after my parents divorced. Tell me more, I pressed further. She continued her story, “I was an undergraduate at the university then and my dad asked my siblings and I to leave his house with our mum, while he stopped paying our school fees. Two of my siblings were at the polytechnic while the youngest one was preparing to report to the university for his first year of study. I asked her, so how then did you manage to complete your studies? She replied, It is needless to tell you that I struggled on my own to complete my studies, with the assistance of some friends, but mummy managed to help the others to pull through their schools from her meager resources. By this time she could no longer hold back her tears. Her red shot eyes spoke volumes, and she said in a low tone, “I have taken a stance against getting married in life, I can not allow any man to treat me like my mother was treated by my father.”

Determination

CHAPTER ONE

The little village of Duoplay where papay Gon-gar-nu sojourned lacked basic amenities of life, such as Electricity, Pipe borne water, good roads, Hospitals and Telecommunications.

If you need a toothpaste and brush to clean your teeth you will need to trek to the next village, which is about five kilometers away, to buy from a man who was managing a small-scale business. Saye and his siblings were brought up in such a typical village.  Thanks to the flying birds for their early morning singing, and to the cockcrow at dawn.  Every inhabitant in the village wakes up to enjoy the beauty of nature.  Shielded from environmental pollution, and fear of automobile accidents, it was so peaceful living in the village.

One day Saye and his playmates went around the village hunting for squirrels.  As the boys were throwing stones at these creatures, it was fun.  They were full of excitement and they saw themselves as target shooters. These go -getters continued this daily exercise.  To Papay Gon-gar-nu’s astonishment, as he was going to his farm on this fateful day, he saw his three sons vigorously pursuing squirrels.  He was transfixed, and he said to himself, “What are these boys up to?  No plans for the future obviously.  Am I not a failure?   A father should plan for his children.  If I leave them to enjoy all the freedom they crave for, they will destroy their future and become a nuisance in the society.”

Be Calm

What are you going through right now? Tough times! Depressing situations! Confusion! Be Calm, For burdens are lifted at Calvary. Some people do not know how to manage life's crisis. They get so bogged by problems and may even want to call it quits. Worse still, some contemplate suicide. Why do you want to end it all? You must always remember that 'every problem has an expiry date.' That means, "this issue that is weighing you down will soon pass away too.' Therefore, relax, put your trust in Jesus Christ. Remain calm, cast all your anxieties on Christ. The reason is simple- He cares for you.