COMMUNICATION: Spouses
should always communicate and learn to express their feelings.
Most times conflicts erupt in a marriage relationship
basically due to communication problems. Positive form of communication would
attract good and successful relationship, while negative communication can
result into a disintegration of relationship. At times human beings draw their
conclusions by whatever interpretations are attached to words that are spoken
or actions that are displayed. Unfortunately some of the interpretations are
sometimes wrong because they are based on false premises.
“Communication is often hard work.” When a couple is engaged in a discussion,
the wife expects the husband (or vice versa) to listen to the points being raised
and respond appropriately but often they get disappointed when the feedback
that is received is not in consonance with the message that was sent. It must
be noted that feedback is largely dependent on the listening ability of the
receiver. Therefore, the key to effective communication is attentive listening.
HINTS:
Communication is
HARD WORK. It is a process that involves Talking, Listening and
Understanding; Communication is more than talking; Listening
is very essential in building strong lines of communication in a marriage.
And it takes effort. Whenever one partner is talking the other partner should
exercise patience to listen to all that he/she wants to say. One knotty issue
in communication is making yourself understood. More often than not, ‘one
partner tries to second guess the other.’ It is an assumption most of the times
to think that you know the end of what the other fellow is saying,
unfortunately by the time he/she is interrupted a lot of facts get muddled up. “But when husband and wife start to listen to
one another an amazing thing happens: they start to feel understood by each
other.’’ (NormanWright 1974, 61). Do Make conscious effort to improve your communication skills.
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